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BY GORDON Q. GUILLERGAN
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Saturday, March 18, 2017
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“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche
SOMETIMES we resort to little white lies to make an impression. But some people get a little carried away with this and create a whole lot of lies about who they are, which in the long run can ruin them rather than create a positive image. These lies that they create tend to be well-lived facts.
Pathological lying is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying. It was first described in an 1891 medical literature by Anton Delbrueck. It was – and still is – a controversial topic.
Pathological lying has been defined as “falsification entirely disproportionate to any discernible end in view, may be extensive and very complicated, and may manifest over a period of years or even a lifetime.”
The individual may be aware they are lying, or may believe they are telling the truth. Sometimes, however, the individual may be lying to make their lives seem more exciting when in reality these are unpleasant or boring.
Under our Family Code, lying is not one of the grounds for the annulment of marriage but jurisprudence has established how it can be taken as a psychological incapacity.
In the case of Antonio vs. Reyes, G.R. No. 155800, March 10, 2006, the petitioner-husband claimed that respondent persistently lied about herself, the people around her, her occupation, income, educational attainment and other events or things, including: (1) she introduced her illegitimate child to her petitioner-husband as an adopted child of her family; (2) she misrepresented herself as a psychiatrist, with a degree in psychology; (3) she falsely claimed to be a singer or a freelance voice talent; (4) she invented friends and, under the names of those imaginary friends, sent lengthy letters to petitioner-husband touting her as the “number one moneymaker” in the commercial industry worth P2 million; and (5) she represented herself as a person of greater means, altering her pay slip to make it appear she earned a higher income.
The Supreme Court sustained the nullity of the marriage based on the psychological incapacity of the wife (respondent). As concluded by the psychiatrist presented by petitioner, such repeated lying is abnormal and pathological and amounts to psychological incapacity.
There’s a notion that psychological incapacity pertains to the inability to understand the obligations of marriage, as opposed to a mere inability to comply with them.
Sometimes it is inevitable for us to create little lies so we may maintain a certain image. However, no lies remain hidden and no peace comes out of these lies that we create./PN
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