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BY GORDON Q. GUILLERGAN
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Lying by omission
WHAT you don’t know won’t hurt you.
I am a firm believer that lying does not only mean denying things. I believe in another form of lying which we are commonly guilty of – lying by omission. Not disclosing things that are necessary is a form of lying.
Common legal practice would tell us that less talk means less mistakes. This I believe, however, is not applicable in any relationship or in a marriage. For the vow of honesty between two persons in a relationship or in a marriage is encompassing matters which could affect both and the relationship.
The question is whether it is necessary to tell everything? Or is an act of omission necessary to maintain a good marital life?
Concealment of any of the conditions cited in Article 25 of the Family Code is a ground to validly declare a marriage void ab initio by virtue of the fact that had it been for the knowledge of these, the consent wouldn’t have been freely given.
Personally, my stand on this is that there would always be certain things we must keep to ourselves, not because we intend to lie but because there is not a need to tell them anyway.
It is good to sometimes consider the effects over the idea of mere honesty. Up to a certain degree, the need to protect the marriage should be the utmost interest over anything else.
I had a friendly chat with a female friend regarding this matter. According to her, for women – no matter how minute the detail is – not divulging the same is crucial.
I can’t speak for the rest of the male species but we often refuse to tell minute matters just so to avoid unnecessary arguments that can lead to something far worse.
It is quite difficult to sometimes put yourself in the shoes of your spouse, but you really should. A lie by omission can lead to a habit and could later on become a full-blown lie./PN
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