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BY GORDON GUILLERGAN
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Infidelity 101
NEVER let one mistake be the reason to forego the years you built a foundation. – Anonymous
With our desire to attain an almost perfect life, we are often engrossed with the idea of making sure we never step on potholes that would ruin our very picture of perfection. With that, we seem to forget sometimes how far we have gone, and we make rash decisions and neglect to acknowledge the years and effort put into it.
Correlating it with marriage, I was asked how many times would infidelity be acceptable?
My answer: no book provides for a fix rule on that; only the heart can provide the answer.
The Family Code simply cites infidelity as a ground for Legal Separation under Article 55. It does not forego any means to reconcile the spouses before the procedure takes its course. Meaning, even our laws leaves room for reconciliation.
My take on the matter is that forgiveness and holding no record of wrongs are among the biblical definitions of what love should be under I Corinthinians13:4. We are often confronted by temptations and sometimes we succumb to them without a conscious intent to do so.
Perhaps when infidelity was done once, it was just mistake that could be talked about and left as water under the bridge. But remember: such indiscretion done the second time becomes a choice.
The choice to do it again speaks not of how weak you are in resisting temptation but how very little respect you have for your spouse. The fact that you repeated something you know could ruin your relationship means you did not consider the feelings of your spouse. Cheating is always easy but to stay loyal needs conscious effort.
A marriage cannot be expected to be without trials but it’s important for spouses to value each other. A mistake could be easily forgotten but the love you share should remain timeless./PN
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