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BY GORDON Q. GUILLERGAN
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The good in starting good
HOW YOU got him is how you’ll lose him. ā Hollywood saying
Every time I go online, there is this never ending Brangelina divorcing fuss, and I am exasperated. I just donāt care for I am not really a fan. But for purposes of social relevance ā to some perhapsā let us look into this Brangelina chaos.
I remember how it was years back when the two stuck up together after filming Mr. and Mrs. Smith. That time Brad Pitt was married to Jennifer Aniston, whom divorced him after discovering the affair.
Recently, in the movie Allied, Brad was paired with French actress Marion Cotillard. Was she the reason for the Brangelina split? There were other rumored reasons such as substance and child abuse, and anger management problems.
In our jurisprudence, these are related to the grounds for legal separation under Article 55 of the Family Code. Legal separation is merely the physical separation of the spouses; the marriage still subsists hence either spouse may not remarry.
Personally, I think the Brangelina marriage did not last because there was this constant thought that the husband would cheat on the wife. He did it before with his former wife, right? This ceaseless paranoia in the subconscious was magnified in every small thing that he did.
The suspicious wife may have patiently and carefully handled it for quite some time but she could have reached her breaking point. You know what they say: a thief is in constant war against other thieves. This is likewise true in marriage. That is why I firmly hold on to the principle that nothing good comes out of something that was wrong from the beginning.
A common mistake that women and men hurting from a bad relationship make is to find a āreboundā or cheat. This is not a good idea.
When you want to be in a relationship, donāt bring the baggage of your past. You will hurt not only yourself but the person you are with. Be whole on your own without needing to be filled up by someone else. Only you and God can do all the filling up of yourself.
Never let your cheating be sugar-coated with ātrue loveā or nagpuno sang kulang or unhappiness in a previous relationship. This speaks of how little regard you have on your marriage.
In going into a relationship or marriage, be an empty vessel. Start clean, start right. For a good journey into marriage should begin with good and pure heart./PN
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