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BY SONIA D. DAQUILA
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Monday, January 16, 2017
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JANUARY greets me with two lovely ladies, Lyl Sagalrino and Roma Miranda in the College of Management and Accountancy, announcing their wedding dates in January and February, respectively.
So what is so special about wedding or marriage?
Wedding ceremony is cultural and the way it is celebrated depends upon the people concerned. Some prefer to have their wedding held thousands of feet above the ground while breathlessly skydiving. Some want their wedding held under the sea while scuba-diving, God bless the priests or the minister! Some hold it in the garden, in the church, or pathetically on a deathbed.
Grandiose or simple, there is no guaranty of “forever” although sentimentally, the parties recite “…until death do us part.”
So many songs, so many movies or teleserye revolve around marriage, fidelity or infidelity, being bold or hopelessly relishing the martyrdom complex, or call it quits. It is a matter of choice. Valid marriage makes the contracting parties “spouses” with all the constraints, rights and privileges enumerated by the Philippine Civil Code.
In marriage, male and female bind themselves and are labelled asawa. One priest added humor to his homily when he said, “when we drop the A in asawa, what is left is sawa, nagsasawa or sawang nanglilingkis (a marriage which is suffocating). From there, infidelity sets in for a new thrill, new excitement for a boring partnership. When the S in sawa is dropped, what is left is awa, meaning, they stick to each other despite. Worst is when from awa, the letter A is dropped. Wa is a Cebuano term which means no more or gone. Thus, the Devil’s dictionary defines marriage as ‘an institution where those who are out would like to get it in, and those who are in would like to get out.’”
No marriage is made in heaven. You make things and events happen. More than communication through sex, mental, verbal, body language or even silence are eloquent when we truly listen.
Looking back, this June, I will celebrate my 40th wedding ceremony. Those years were not so smooth at all. It was erratic like a faltering heart. When one goes astray, however, all faults are not 100 percent imputable to him or her. It takes two to tango, it takes three or four to call you fools.
Take it from Dan who still courts Dulce even after decades of being married. It’s so nice to watch them.
Dan gifts Dulce with his painting, fetches her and has remained her faithful driver and lover.
Have you ever given second thought on your marriage or of getting into it? (delsocorrodaquila@mail.com/PN)
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