BY HERMAN M. LAGON
CONTRARY to popular belief, divorce can actually signal the start of a bright new chapter in a person’s life. As difficult as the journey may be, it also presents chances for happiness and personal development that are more in line with your actual self. A concept that emphasizes how life-altering events such as divorce can result in profound self-discovery, a deeper appreciation for life, and stronger, more meaningful relationships is “post-traumatic growth,” as defined by Tedeschi and Calhoun and published in The Journal of Traumatic Stress (2004).
However, getting a divorce has its challenges. Society stigmatizes divorce as an indication of personal failure. However, deciding to end a marriage that no longer fulfills you is a strong declaration of your value as a person. It is about living authentically and placing a higher value on your happiness than other people think you should. The guts to file for divorce shows a profound realization that not all relationships are meant to last and that sometimes it is best to end a relationship.
The choice to divorce is evidence of how resilient people can be. It recognizes that, despite its difficulties, change is frequently essential to progress. The decision to dissolve a marriage is motivated by pursuing a better, more satisfying life, not by a sense of defeat. It is about accepting your freedom to seek happiness and tranquility, even if it means letting go of a once-loved object.
The goal of legalizing divorce is to give those stuck in unsalvageable relationships a compassionate way out, not to undermine marriage. Ensuring that every individual, including their children, is entitled to a secure and satisfying existence irrespective of their circumstances, is all about equity and impartiality. Due to the historical vulnerability of women in abusive marriages, legal divorce is a crucial instrument for promoting autonomy and self-determination.
Our legal systems need to adapt to the ways that society does. By acknowledging that not all marriages are intended to last and that people have the right to pursue happiness outside of a failed relationship, legalizing divorce would mean bringing our laws into line with contemporary values. Legalizing divorce is about preserving individual rights and dignity, not undermining the sanctity of marriage, despite resistance from conservative and religious groups.
Divorce is ultimately not a sign of failure but rather a brave act of self-respect. It is undoubtedly necessary to regain one’s identity, well-being, and happiness. As the discussion about divorce continues, it is critical to dispel the stigma and acknowledge it as a courageous decision demonstrating grit, resiliency, and the desire for a better, more satisfying life.
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Doc H fondly describes himself as a ”student of and for life” who, like many others, aspires to a life-giving and why-driven world grounded in social justice and the pursuit of happiness. His views do not necessarily reflect those of the institutions he is employed or connected with./PN
