THERE WILL always come a fullness of time for everyone. Whatever life station you are in right now, whether in plenty or adversity, there will always come that “Aha! moment” when you say, “So, that’s what it’s all about!”
For instance, you have been deprived and unjustly treated for long and you just kept your quiet to preserve the peace, but in fulness of time, you finally act on it because you have grown in countless ways, and just need to correct a wrong thus enabling you to have a fresh start. To borrow the famous line, “Correct the historical injustice” of the past. Well, the magnitude may not be that huge but still an injustice was done and caused you pain.
Sometimes, it takes a decade to act because you want to be the better person but when the time is right, everything will come full circle.
Many of us might be in this situation. We keep the peace, suffer all the arrogant and accusatory words in silence, tolerate the indignity and shame, however, when the time is ripe, everything will still fall in the right places.
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I was chatting with a lovely individual two nights back and she was sharing her bouts of loneliness. I researched on loneliness and indeed, there is a wealth of materials about loneliness online. The studies are mostly done abroad. There is also a study done in the country about elderly people confronting bouts of loneliness.
But I am more interested on the pangs of loneliness felt by people my age, even those belonging to the forties. Is it generational? Is it a woman thing? Some would say, “Choose to be happy.” Who doesn’t, huh! But my question remains: Why do people get lonely? And why don’t we own up to our loneliness? Is there shame in being lonely? Do we need to embrace the world’s standard of happiness, so we numb our loneliness and pain? Why can’t we be authentic and say, ‘I am lonely,’ without being told, ‘Choose to be happy?’ Isn’t loneliness an emotion as well? Even Jesus felt lonely. And He is God! “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief” (Isaiah 53:3). Now, compare that to us, mere mortals.
There is no shame in being lonely. It is an emotion that stems from something like rejection, for instance. That’s how you feel. If others don’t understand, find someone else who does.
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A Time for Everything
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every [a]purpose under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 ASV
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And talking about seasons, if it is your season to rest, rest. If it is your season to spread your wings to achieve your dreams, by all means, fly! Don’t equate your season with anyone’s season. That’s just the crap the world keeps on feeding us.
Know your own season and follow your own path. You will be fortunate if you have people beside you to assist you and expand you. However, if you find yourself alone in your journey, you need to commit to your goal and focus on what lies ahead to survive the odds. Find people along the way who are willing to assist you, so the journey is less arduous. In time, you will achieve that which you set your heart to do.
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Writer can be reached at belindabelsales@gmail.com. Twitter @ShilohRuthie./PN
