BY KLAUS DÖRING
SURELY, there can never be an instant cure for boredom unless you make an effort to beat it.
Boredom strikes without a definite time at all. Even if you think that sitting and watching could be relaxing, a few minutes later you’ll start to think of other things to do.
Beating boredom does not need to be too complicated. There are actually ways on how you can deal with it with or without spending too much. It’s just a matter of how it will make you feel satisfied to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling.
Tick tock tick tock, time seems so slow when we are doing nothing or even waiting for someone or something. Looking back and forth at your clock or watch, one minute feels like forever and it feels like time is not running that really makes us frustrated. Especially when you have finished a movie or series or even when waiting for a new series or episode to be available on our screens. Boredom always comes in our way.
When you are done with your school work or finished a task, you are probably thinking of what you should do next. Now that we are spending most of our time at home, we tend to find something fun to brighten up our mood. Being in this kind of setting, almost everything eventually leads to boredom since we are in a limited space and area to be at. It is disappointing to notice that the fun-o-meter gradually decreases as the time passes by.
Being bored always kills our vibe, especially on a good day. Also, we tend to overthink things that make us feel anxious.
Get up and it is time to turn your frown upside down. We can beat the heavy feeling brought by boredom, by doing something fun and entertaining. We can always kill dull moments by doing these enjoyable activities at home and take note that these things only require imagination and creativity: Listen to music on the radio, your phone or maybe on an instrument.
With the right playlist and music, this will hype us up to become productive. Listening to music improves our mood from a very low energy to surprisingly high energy. We are now singing and dancing as if we have a mini concert at our house. Also, music relieves stress in our body and lessens anxiety.
Organizing will lead to finding things that we do not use anymore and find it hard to put it in the trash because for some reason, there are some attached memories with it. Now you realize that you are not just organizing, but you are also going on a trip to memory lane.
What is stopping you from calling or sending a message to someone? It is not bad to catch up with a friend, best friend, family, or a special someone. There are many online platforms to connect with them virtually and recreate again those good old days. You can still get that tea even if you are in a different hometown.
Many people are now hopping into this trend to share their insights and experiences. In this way, not only you are able to share knowledge but also a way of documenting and telling your story online so that in the future, you can rewatch your videos and reminisce happy memories you made through time.
While being a columnist of “Tinig ng Bayan” (published in Abra) during the 1980s, I remember our Taiwanese coordinator Cristina Lising-Geronga, who expressed herself in innumerable write ups about the topic loneliness. Sure, “Tinig ng Bayan” has been a publication for Filipinos abroad. Loneliness, borne by Filipinos living abroad while missing their families in the Philippines, became a very “normal” expression.
During that time, my Philippine mentor, the late Monsignor Professor Dr. Dr. Hermogenes E. Bacareza, Chaplain of the Philippine Community in Berlin, started together with me publishing “Ang Mabuhay”. Believe me, “loneliness” became a main topic in many write-ups.
Nowadays, loneliness and boredom seem to be the splitting image of each other – so to speak, being as like two peas in a pod. While browsing in social networks like Facebook, one can find more and more comments as in “When Boredom Strikes” or so.
Boredom, ending up in loneliness – or vice versus?
How come that loneliness and/or boredom are still a general topic in our society today’s society?
Loneliness has been called one of the main diseases even during the last century. It really doesn’t strike not only the Filipinos abroad and their loved ones back home.
Too often loneliness is being followed by alcoholism, drug abuse and even suicide. Yes, loneliness becomes a modern day plague. I observed several people trying to surround themselves with so-called “friends” only to find that such relationships are often shallow and unsatisfying.
Loneliness can be painful but being lonely or alone at that is not always a bad thing. Ask yourself, how do you use your time, if you are really alone? Do you simply let the time pass without doing anything at all?
Why not use such time productively? There are many worthwhile activities to engage in, even if you are alone, such as reading, writing, listening to good (light) music, playing an (forgotten?) instrument, gardening.
Reading the Bible can be also very particularly beneficial. The Word of God is “alive and exerts power” and can take our minds off ourselves.
To break the cycle of loneliness, one must be a giver. Let’s keep an eye, not only and always on our personal interests but also on the interests of others.
Look around and watch out who needs help, or who needs a real friend or good listener. Once you have spotted such a person, act! Thus, in order to have friends, you must act like a friend. Luke 6:38 says, “Give to others, and God will give to you!” Besides, “There is more happiness (and less loneliness) in giving than receiving”, says Acts 20:35.
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