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BY GORDON GUILLERGAN
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Feeling okay
“JUST because you failed as husband and wife means you also failed as parents.” – Anonymous
Certain things in life need to be embraced even if we feel deeply apprehensive about them for the greater good.
In marriage, our choice to end the relationship does not mean the end of a good friendship with our former spouse. To be friends with someone you wish will no longer be a part of your life is a must if only for your children’s sake. The soured relationship of parents mustn’t affect the kids.
The rights and duties of parents with respect to their un-emancipated children (below 18 years of age as provided under Articles 220, 221 and 225 of the Family Code) include but not limited to:
* keeping them in their company
* support, educate, and instruct them by right precepts and good examples
* providing for their upbringing in keeping with their means
* giving them love and affection, advice and counsel, companionship and understanding
* providing them with moral and spiritual guidance
* enhancing, protecting, preserving, and maintaining their physical and mental health at all times
* demanding from them respect and obedience; and
* such other duties as imposed by law upon parents.
The relationship between parents and their minor children naturally gives rise to various rights and obligations affecting the welfare of, and the parents’ control over, the child. The law, however, cannot inquire in every case how fathers and mothers fulfill their duties.
Sometimes there is a need to forego whatever grudges one might have against an ex-husband or ex-wife for the children’s sake. The children’s welfare should be the utmost consideration in severed marital ties.
Just like any other relationships, there would always be that one “x” you abhor, refuse to share the same space with, or be in the same vicinity with. But fate sometimes play tricks and you would constantly bump into that person. I say, exhale all bad feelings and live in peace.
The past bad things in your relationship should not necessarily reflect the persons you both are now. People change. You might be surprised to know that your “x” changed for the better. It is but proper to accept that and move on. Letting go of grudges makes life less complicated.
I know it is always easier said than done. Personally, it took me six years to recover from a bad relationship. But if we allow the pain of the past to overpower us, we deny ourselves the chance to be loved again and give love.
Remember that being at peace with your past doesn’t mean being friends with them; it simply means you acknowledge their existence and that you have moved on, and that you are okay. #FeelingOk./PN
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