RAMBLINGS OF THE UNMARRIED

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BY GORDON Q. GUILLERGAN
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Discerning

MANY questions spring from the never underrated subject of love, marriage and relationships, and too often, people would form their opinions from pseudo-facts.
I guess I am like most of them, appearing to be an “expert” on the subject even in the absence of experiences and facts to support my claim. But it is also said that people not in a situation are more objective in seeing the scratches than those who are in it.
A classmate from high school sought an opinion on a marital problem and I gave a piece of my mind. She and her husband have been married for six years now but were having difficulty conceiving a child. The medical records showed that the problem was with her. They tried medical alternatives but these proved futile.
One day a doctor friend suggested that they try surrogacy – having another woman carry their baby. A fertilized egg from my friend would be implanted on the surrogate woman’s womb.
My friend asked about the legal considerations of having to go through this process. What would be the status of the child after birth?
Our jurisprudence or decided cases have not laid down the doctrine regarding this matter. However, my take on this is that the baby shall be the legitimate child of both spouses after it has been delivered – as long as the child was born by the surrogate to a lawfully-wed couple.
I see this evolution of technology to fulfill the desire to have a baby as something that we should take advantage of. However, the biblical or Christian aspect of this is something that bothers me. It’s like a defiance of the will of God; it’s like playing God also.
But we were given the gift of free will that allows us to be discerning of things and situations and act on them based on our understanding and in accordance with His word.
We all have our fair share of self-serving decisions in life. I, for one, do not see it as defying God if done in good faith and with no ill intent.
The choice is ours to make and the consequences is ours also to bear. The leniency of God to understand our reasons is there but we must always check His word in case of doubt.
At the end of the day things happen for a reason, and the reason why it happened is for us to discern using our free will./PN
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