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BY GORDON GUILLERGAN
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Wanted: Parents
“IF A CHILD lives with acceptance, they learn to love.”
Not everyone is given the opportunity of being raised by our mother or father. Some – such as those with parents working abroad – are raised in a semi complete family, like with their aunts or cousins, but most with their grandparents.
The Family Code’s Article 354 provides that grandparents – and in their default, the oldest brother or sister – shall exercise parental authority in case of death or absence of the child’s parents.
If the parents are living, or if the child is under guardianship, the grandparents may give advice and counsel to the child, to the parents or to the guardian.
Further, Article 355 of the Code provides that substitute parental authority shall be exercised by the grandparents in the following order:
(1) paternal grandparents
(2) maternal grandparents.
Our laws ensure that the children’s welfare is looked after. They mandate that parental authority shall be with those who understand and know the child.
Many would say it would be a bummer living with grandparents but, I grew up having grandparents around even if both my parents are present.
In an article, Jenny Chisnell noted the things you learn growing up with grandparents, and I must state the things I can totally relate to.
There are “school clothes” and “play clothes.”
My lola was a nurse and my lolo was very particular as to cleanliness, so there was a need for me to constantly change into something clean. I also made sure that what I wore outside the house was not worn in bed.
Cleaning as you go became important. My grandparents had this habit of making everything in order and everything was wrapped in plastic.
Just because you’re legally entitled to a new perk doesn’t mean your folks don’t have the final say on the matter.
Although you are slightly spoiled by your grandparents, the idea of you raising your voice to your parents is a big no-no. Grandparents actually tend to be very strict as to how a man should treat a lady and how a child should speak to his parents. And the need to yield to your parents is a must.
The phone is for conveying brief messages, not for long-winded conversations.
I remember being scolded at for staying too long on the land line when I was in high school. I was constantly reminded that time was of the essence, so why not make use of every minute doing something productive rather than sit there and chat?
Grandparents have this sense of value for time which I find to be a very good form of discipline.
You’re not going to have to worry about paying for food.
Yes. Being with grandparents, you get to pay lesser for food since you get senior citizen’s discounts, plus you don’t get to pay. Not that your parents won’t pay for your food but when you are an apo, even if you are already 25 or 30, you are still an apo and you get free food when you’re with your grandparents.
In the end, it doesn’t really matter who raised us for as long as we were formatted with good values such as love and respect. These make us better individuals. For a child learns with what they live./PN
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