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BY GORDON Q. GUILLERGAN
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Lost, gone or start again
“IT’S not the easiest thing to do, I’m feeling inside again…every time I look at you I know we’re starting over again…this time we’ll love all the pain away…we are starting over again…” – Natalie Cole
Many of us often set a certain degree of expectations on things, situations, relationships or marriage and we don’t always get it right the first time.
Sometimes, we fail to see a little room for improvement or adjustment, so we simply forego ever doing a little bit more and leave. The dilemma arises when all is severed and we are left to contemplate on things, realizing what could have been. We find ourselves regretting our decisions, and seeking to start all over again.
Under Section 23 of A.M. No. 02-11-11-SC on the Rule on Legal Separation which took effect on March 15, 2003, pending a Legal Separation proceeding or after the Decree of Legal Separation, if the spouses had reconciled, a joint manifestation under oath, duly signed by the spouses, may be filed in the same proceeding for legal separation.
If the reconciliation occurred while the proceeding for legal separation is pending, the court shall immediately issue an order terminating the proceeding.
If the reconciliation occurred after the rendition of the judgment granting the petition for legal separation but before the issuance of the decree, the spouses shall express in their manifestation whether or not they agree to revive the former regime of their property relations or choose a new regime.
The court shall immediately issue a Decree of Reconciliation declaring that the legal separation proceeding is set aside and specifying the regime of property relations under which the spouses shall be covered.
If the spouses reconciled after the issuance of the Decree, the court, upon proper motion, shall issue a decree of reconciliation declaring therein that the Decree is set aside but the separation of property and any forfeiture of the share of the guilty spouse already effected subsists, unless the spouses have agreed to revive their former regime of property relations or adopt a new regime.
The Decree of Reconciliation shall be recorded in the Civil Registries where the marriage and the decree had been registered.
However, in an annulment proceeding or annulled marriage, when they choose to be married again or have realized they want to start all over again – since annulment of a married couple severs marital ties – upon the grant of the same there is no more marriage to speak of, hence they are both single in the eyes of the law. The option to get married again to each other is allowed.
If it the annulment is pending, proceeding proper manifestation with the court of the reconciliation and to have the proceeding be terminated or dismissed based on the fact that you have reconciled, is the proper action.
Every one of us has our fair share of regrets we want to straighten out or correct. It is never too late to do so. It takes courage to admit a wrong and win someone back again. Nothing is ever lost in love if it is pure and true.
Yes, time would perhaps erase the feeling but it does not allow you to forget. If one day you wake up and realize you have lost that one person who drives you crazy but you still end up wanting to be with, no rule impedes you from wanting him or her back.
To a certain degree, it is okay to lose things or a fraction of yourself than to lose someone who makes each of your day worth the decision of losing things and yourself. Because you may regain things and yourself through time, but time would perhaps drift you apart from that person you want and it may be too late to have them back again.
Most would say don’t push it if it is not meant to be. But how would you know? That’s why the need to be alone is important sometimes for us to realize what we want. For it is in looking into yourself that allows you to understand whether it is a love lost or love gone./PN
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