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BY GORDON GUILLERGAN
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Wednesday, March 15, 2017
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“There is no real ending. It’s just the place where you stop the story.” ― Frank Herbert
A COMMON defense mechanism when confronted with marital disputes is to escape or run away.
Sometimes it is easier for us to walk away thinking that such is the best way to move on. However, we fail to consider that perhaps the best way to deal with the problem is to confront it and deal with it in the proper forum at the proper time.
Moving on does not mean you have to be far away, or confronting the problem does not necessarily mean that you have to be there staring at it all the time. In cases of annulment, the common question of those who have left is if they can file the petition for annulment or declaration of nullity even if they are abroad?
Under our Rules on Special Proceedings and our Family Code, a party who lives abroad may file for the annulment of marriage. You could prepare and file the petition for annulment or declaration of nullity even if you’re abroad.
You could sign the document abroad and have it authenticated at the nearest Philippine embassy. You could then transmit the documents for filing here in the Philippines. Your lawyer should be able to guide you every step of the way, including the preparation and filing of the petition.
The aforementioned is a legal standpoint of Atty. Fred Pamaos on one of his entries under the Philippine e-Legal Forum.
Moving on is not something geographic. You can move on even if you are close to the person. It is all about having the will to do so. There are some who chose to be away to move but their mind, heart and body is still where their marriage was. It is not about geographics; it’s about establishing intent and intimacy – establishing the fact that the marriage is no long feasible and that there is a need to sever the ties, and having the intent to end it by doing an actual effort to end the relationship or marriage.
Finally, it is developing an intimacy with yourself and with God – intimacy with yourself begins with knowing your worth, what you want and how you should be treated.
Having a deeper intimacy with yourself goes hand in hand with developing an intimacy with God – a relationship of prayer which allows you to have a sense of enlightenment as to what is God’s will and purpose for you.
Remember always that endings are the best time to begin something great./PN
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