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BY GORDON Q. GUILLERGAN
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Sunday, April 9, 2017
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“If you don’t like something, change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” – Mary Engelbreit
YOU MIGHT wonder, is it possible for someone to spend 24 hours with his or her ex? For sure most would answer with a resounding NO.
But did you know that in the United States, even if divorce documents have been filed, parties in the marriage are not required to move out of the marital home.
The soon-to-be exes can both remain in the marital home during the divorce proceedings with one notable exception – if the cited reason for divorcing is irreconcilable differences, they must live apart even if they are residing under the same roof. This is according to lawyer at the Family Law and Help Support, a blog dedicated to those who are having marital queries in the United States.
According to the blog, for some couples remaining in the same home during divorce proceedings is necessary for financial reasons. But if domestic violence is an issue or the couple remaining in the same home causes emotional distress for any children they have, they should speak with their attorneys about available options to help protect themselves and their children.
Although living in the same home during a divorce is not ideal, there are tips to make life under the same roof more bearable.
* Household Expenses – During a divorce where the couple is still living together, it is important that they still maintain the household’s expenses. This means the couple must allocate the expenses by an agreement or a court order.
* Living Space – To still qualify for a “no-fault” divorce, it is important for the soon-to-be exes to establish separate living spaces. Make sure to create a physical divide between living spaces.
* Personal Living Expenses – When going through divorce proceedings, all personal expenses should be kept separate. Should one of the spouses be considered the “stay at home” parent and does not have his or her own income, that spouse’s attorney can enter a Temporary Support Order to obtain financial support.
* Household Chores – Should the grounds for the divorce be irreconcilable differences, it is important to stop performing household tasks and chores for the other spouse. This includes activities such as cleaning his or her living space, doing his or her laundry, cooking for him or her or having meals together. This is only encouraged when it helps maintain a level of normality for any children the couple has.
* Parenting – It is important to ensure that a parenting schedule is established between divorcing parents. This should allow both parties equal time alone with the children they have together. This is also important for the emotional well-being and stability of the children involved in the divorce.
In the Philippines, except in cases where there is a violation of Republic Act 9262 or the Act Penalizing Violence Against Women and Children and there is a need for restraining orders, no provision requires the future annulled or separated spouses to live in different houses. But logically, if you are seeking marriage annulment or separation from your spouse, what’s the point of staying in the same house?/PN
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