A GAY friend suggested that I check out Adam Demos’ monster of a cock in the new Netflix series “Sex/Life”.
The big cock scene (a.k.a. the shower scene) appears in Episode 3, some 19 minutes into the episode.
In it, Demos as Brad is in a shower at the gym with butt-showing Mike Vogel as Cooper.
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Brad and Cooper are competing for Billie, played by Sarah Shahi.
The big reveal is just a quick glimpse of Demos’ privates, but it was enough to spice up the viewers’ fantasy of the preceding, and succeeding, sex scenes.
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I’ll spoil it for everyone by saying that Demos and Shahi are a real life couple.
Are they having real sex on the set?
I think they have a house.
Or, at the very least, can afford a room in a sexy hotel.
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Most viewers will say that the series is more about sex than about life.
I will disagree.
Sure, it is pretty much soft porn.
And I love watching those beautiful bodies.
And for some reason, I am drawn to Vogel’s bubble butts, and Shahi’s Vienna sausage nipples.
But when I come to think about it, I like the questions the show poses.
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People will take sides; and choose between Team Cooper, and Team Brad.
I will be on Team Billie.
Again, my coda about our individual appropriation of life, freedom, and the pursuit of happiness.
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I am not likely to endorse Billie’s final decision (last 3 minutes of Episode 8) to Filipinos, but I totally understand where she stands (or spreads her legs).
I like that Billie is insatiable like me.
But I don’t like her greed.
I mean, because I am not greedy that way.
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I think life should be about choices.
Ideally, smart choices.
But I can understand stupid choices.
Only a few people can really have it all.
And to think that Billie will have it all is fiction.
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In fact, the whole series supports the theory that she cannot have it all (at the same time, all the time).
But if that ending is a cliffhanger for an additional season, I get it.
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I am a monogamist.
And even years before watching Sex/Life, I was already telling my female friends, who are married, to “use” their husband for wild, kinky, wanton sex.
I also tell my compadres to f*ck their wife crazy, to “use” their wife as they would use a prostitute.
Because, hello?
The bond of marriage is your free pass for unlimited, unbridled sex.
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Just be sure there’s mutual consent.
Mutual understanding.
Communication.
Remember, my first ever Palanca-winning story talks about marital rape.
So, it’s not something that I endorse.
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I want couples, and married couples especially, to discuss sex.
To be less inhibited with each other.
To pursue their happiness.
To be free, and sexually liberated.
To have life, and live it to the fullest.
In this way, I’m a sex-positive person.
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Watching Sex/Life on Netflix made me realize I did so many things right in my sex life.
I had wild sex before my husband — including parties with swingers.
I had great kinky sex with my husband. (Yes, we got toys!)
And now that I am a widower and older, I am still having great sex as I continue to explore life, freedom, and the pursuit of happiness.
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Twenty years ago, people actually called me the Carrie Bradshaw of Iloilo City.
Carrie, of course, is the character played by Sarah Jessica Parker in HBO’s “Sex and the City.”
Carrie is a relationship columnist in a New York newspaper.
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Of course, I did “sex in the city.”
To the point that people called me a “sex guru,” which I, of course, immediately appropriated because why not?
I mean, at that point, who has read the whole Kama Sutra, and all the Joy of Sex manuals, and was actually writing about such stuff in the Ilonggo newspapers?
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So there!
Two decades of a healthy reputation as a sex columnist, sex guru, sex-positive person; and occasionally mistaken as a sex god, or sex machine.
Although those mistakes are not too far off./PN
